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And we want to have the choice and the energetic agility to be either in our omega, either in our alpha. And of course, effortless, yes, it’s about going from achieving and pushing and performing, which is way more alpha. Into. the flow of omega. And of course, we want to have a balance between both. Now, Omega is love, is a love-seeking creature. It is what we most desire as women, most women at least. And it’s also okay if that’s not your desire. It’s also totally okay to more identify, which I-also do actually with alpha, which is a freedom seeker. I mean, I’ve created a life of so much freedom for myself. So I can feel how I have a beautiful inner marriage actually between my alpha and my omega.

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So you want to see how we go from this immature validation seeking alpha into a mature alpha. And we want to do the same with our omega. And the immature omega, you know, is the things and other things that I spoke about yesterday. Shadow behavior, pleasing, collapsing, manipulating, and all of that. Yes. This is just a side note. Love and loving ourselves and becoming leaders in love in our romantic relationships. And this spills out and applies also to other relationships that we have. It means that we practice loving and showing up as love. We attract love. By becoming love by being love, if you are in a relationship that doesn’t feel very loving, if you are single and you’re looking for your soulmate, become love. You attract what you are.

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I told you that yesterday already. We’re invited, and I’m inviting you today. To practice. LOVING as though you have never been hurt, yes, as though you have never been disappointed, as though your heart has never been broken. This is. Your mind might go into resistance around this. And yet this is an invitation. And this is first and foremost a gift to yourself. To open to love over and over and over again, even though you have been hurt. And. This is a practice, yes, whether you are single or in a relationship. Our feeler, our omega, our sexual energy, our shakti, our life force, yes, the going within everything that we’ve been practicing and, yeah, feeling since yesterday. It doesn’t depend on makeup. It doesn’t depend on your clothes.

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Attractiveness, magnetizing, inviting also a man or a woman. Yes, depending on your sexual orientation. To commit to you and to show up in a certain way if you’re in a relationship. There’s so much power and it depends completely on how we are embodying in our own. And embodied in her own omega. And being love and the feminine omega means that you are in love with all that is. You know, and we go far as women, we go far for love. We give so deeply for the sake of love. And I want you to feel that that longing for this love and that desire for more love. And it’s actually an infinite desire for more love. And that’s beautiful, that longing can exist as pure sensations, as pure desire inside of your body.

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And this might already be a helpful practice. In a relationship where you want more from your man, he’s dead. Distracted or distant or whatever become that love, embody that love, embody that longing, and the same goes for if you’re single. Yeah. And so what is happening nowadays in a lot of relationships, a lot of, well, I coach a lot of couples, is that, well, the polarity is reversed, you know, and we as women, we are a lot in our alpha, we are competing with men. So there’s a lot of sameness. And that sameness can also express as both of us being in omega, you know, when you’re both. Sitting on the couch watching a movie, etc those are moments where you’re both in Omega, where there’s no a difference because polarity is a difference, and this is what creates Eros.

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Yeah. And we just, as I said, we just want to have the ability in our lives to choose one or both of these axes of these energetic qualities. And today, of course, this is an initiation. You know, a teaser of everything that I teach in Effortless. All of the things that I’m speaking about, I go deeper in. And of course, I embody them and we practice, et cetera, in my official work. Yes. More on that later. So your person is looking, and the man I’m going to speak about— men, but if you are in the same gender. Relationships or if you are a queer, gay, or woman here, because I also work with with gay couples, et cetera, just know that these polarities also work between you.

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It’s exactly the same, and you can feel it. Whether, you know, that agility and you can identify with what I’m speaking just by replacing it and applying it to your situation. But so your partner is looking for something that is different. He’s not necessarily looking for the sameness. Yes. So. A beautiful way for example is to be omega when you are with your partner is being aware of how your bum is sitting on on the chair, like I can increase my omega just by being more in my body as I’m sitting and speaking to you. When your person asks you a question, let it enter your body. It’s all about embodiment, remember. Drink your tea, you know, feel how that tea lands in your mouth and then answer his question.

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These are very simple ways to bring more omega of your feminine energy, your sacral energy, your aliveness, your juice. Your Juju, your desire. That creates polarity in your relationship, even if you’ve been together 30, 40 years. And this offering that to your partner in a relationship, that’s a huge gift. Thank you. And so some of you might be single, you might be dating. And so, of course, you offer that to the person that you feel deserves your omega. That you feel you want to play the game of polarity with. And I’m going to come back to everything that might be happening when you’re single. And also certain patterns that you might be seeing that are not the healthiest patterns and how to shift out of them.

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So you don’t have to stay open because the omega state, we felt this yesterday, it’s a state of openness, yes? It’s a state of vulnerability. It’s feeling your heart. It’s showing your heart. It’s showing your lungs. It’s showing your pussy. I mean, all of that. I mean, not literally necessarily showing your pussy. And so you don’t have to stay open if you feel you cannot trust the man that is sitting in front of you. This is especially true if you are dating and you don’t know someone that well. And so becoming leaders in love is that we go first. It means we go first. It means that we choose love over being right. It means that we choose to look at the ways that we are sabotaging our love.

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And we—when things are not so going so great or when we are suffering or being triggered— think that we need to focus more on ourselves. I want to invite you and tell you that maybe that is not true. Maybe when you focus on the other, on how you can be love, how you can spread love, you are actually liberated in that love, in that loving. So the suffering is not about, oh me, poor me. You actually experience yourself and your emotional suffering gets transmuted in the act of offering and being loved. And you experience yourself as an agent of this. Radiant, sparkling love. So that’s the invitation of Effortless and today’s transmission. It’s really, wow, we want to become the muse. Yeah, we want to become the flirt.

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become the goddess, whatever, you know, word resonates with you. Muse is something very beautiful. We want to become the lover. We want to become the queen. And just feel that in your body, connecting with that. Hmm, so what makes a person— what is a very attractive quality— what makes a man commit to you if you’re single. What makes also your partner commit to you differently? And show up differently in your relationship if you are in a relationship with someone. It’s actually your emotional capacity. Okay, so it’s, of course, the omega. It’s related to how much you’re adding your feminine sexual energy and embodied in yourself. And that relates directly with your emotional capacity. And so that’s your greatest asset in love. And it cannot be covered by beauty.

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It cannot be covered by outer appearance. Yeah. This is why I said yesterday, it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to change your body, become skinnier or whatever, or do the breasts, you know, get breast implants or do makeup or whatever. No. Your emotional capacity, your inner state of being, is the most attractive. This is what makes a man commit to you. And a man is most interested in how he feels with you, how life feels with you, how your presence affects him, how his heart opens, how his purpose gets more aligned, how there’s receptivity in your heart, how you can receive him. This is very important. A lot of women are not good at receiving, at receiving all the ways that their person, their partner, is loving them. Yes.

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We want our partners to light up the room when he enters the room and he or she sees you, yes? Simply because of your presence, your smile, your feminine radiance, yeah? We want to feel our partners. As feeling like, oh, I want. Her by my side and with her by my side, I can achieve anything. That’s the kind of partner we want to be, yes? We want our partners to feel nourished and eager for life simply by knowing that, you know, we love them. This is the kind of lovers that we want to be. This is how we want to live in love. And we want to bring peace. We want to bring peace to their life. And in our own lives, of course. Yeah. And we offer that emotional. Peace.

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And this kind of devotion in the other, in our man, by our emotional maturity, yeah? But also and also are Omega state of receptivity, of receiving. of innocence, of availability. of surrender, of devotion, of vulnerability of our heart. And so what I see in myself, everything that I teach, I know for myself, right? And in most of relationships, women get into mothering, into criticizing, yes? And that’s all related because of the fact that we have not attended to our own inner state. And we need to really do the work of healing our inner child. Yes. of Connecting and meeting your restless heart. Meeting the parts of you that have been hurt in the past. Addressing what causes you to be stuck. And goes into trigger, into an active conflict state, into competition with your man, into criticizing, into mothering.

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And this is a nervous system state, obviously. This is, again, why embodiment is the key to everything. Yes? It’s moving from a trauma response. Yeah. Big T trauma, small T trauma. Threat survival defense. Criticizing, achieving, it’s all related to trauma. To not stating your body, to becoming. Feelable. Yes, feelable for yourself, first and foremost, tending to yourself and then letting your partner feel you through your actions, through your words, through your body. Okay. And this is how you stop being the mother, the healer, the boss, his biggest critic. Yes. And yeah. The competition you might be feeling, this is my case. I’ve struggled with that, you know, going into competition with men. The coaching, that’s definitely a shadow that I know because I know a lot about the relationships.

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I know a lot about self-growth work and not really sabotaged. my relationships in the past yeah i’m very aware of that And of course, the achieving part, yeah? The achiever. If you achieve, there’s this need to be validated and you you unconsciously You enter into a battlefield with your man, you know? And again, we are not achievers because we are powerful. Yes, part of that is that, yes, when it comes from our soul’s desires, etc. But a lot of that, as I said yesterday, comes from unsafety in our bodies. You know, we escape feeling ourselves by achieving. Yes, we avoid by achieving, by looking for that external validation through our achievements. And so if we’re still stuck in that, then it means, again, we have to work on the wordiness piece, knowing your own word.

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Knowing that state of effortlessness, of naturalness, Yeah, that state of love that is available within ourselves and that changes everything. Then you don’t have to compete anymore. You don’t have to mother anymore. And so the feeling of unsafety, of course, the things we’ve experienced in our lives, they block us from resting in that feminine position of surrender and devotion and love and receptivity and giving and receiving and showing ourselves instead of going from our minds. And going from controlling, this is all protection pieces, yeah? And so. One, tending to our own inner child, our own hearts, becoming responsible for our own inner state, noticing all the ways that we try to get validation in our love, in our relationships. Yeah, that’s immature basically. Maybe even entitled. That’s more princess behavior.

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Yes, I’ve been there. You know. It relates to resentment and it can relate to resentment. And we need to clear any resentment that we feel towards men. Or towards women—yes, depends on how that shows up in your life, but most of you will be in heterosexual relationships. So feel what, if you’re gay, feel what resonates the most. So it means you have to look at your relationship with your father, with your exes, with your brothers. You have to clear that. You have to clear any resentment. And there’s a lot there, yes? Because, of course, there’s patriarchy, so we have centuries of misogyny, of being considered inferior, of being suppressed. Yes, we have that in our systems. You know, my grandparents. They have had, you know, moments where I know from my mother, she told me.

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Where my grandfather just took my grandmother for sex whenever he wanted it. And he just lifted her skirt kind of thing. Yes. So this is what happened. couple of generations before us so there can be and i have that too i i’ve done so much work and i’m still doing that work of clearing any resentment that we have that i have that we have towards men that make us actually put ourselves either in an inferior position or sometimes a superior or inferior position towards men and that’s a belittling etc yeah it’s because we’ve been so hurt And that hurt feels so unsafe that we go into being superior and we go into emasculating. We need to stop emasculating our men. Yeah, we need to really clear all of that.

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It’s very, very important. We move from this collective, we’re in this collective shift of healing out of and moving out of patriarchy. you know, the feminine Coming more online, becoming leaders from our feminine being. And of course, that means also that we have to look. about and look at our own inner masculine and how our inner masculine is hurt is in pain the words that we see outside are also words that exist within ourselves yes These are more abstract things I’m talking about, but I’m sure you understand what I mean. And we need to come home within ourselves. We need to connect to our own. divine union between our inner masculine, feminine, seer, and feeler. And we need to connect with the divine, with the universe, with a greater force of unconditional love.

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With God, if you will, God, not as a religious God, but as the undercurrent of love that we have, that is available and that loves us deeply. And when we create that relationship as women also, that shifts the relationship that we have with the human man that we have in front of us, the human person that is in front of us. Yeah. And so we can invoke and choose to evoke the highest in our partners. You know? And this goes from competing, this moves us from competing to fully receiving him. We become the reason he remembers who he is, his power. Yeah. And receiving him is very important. Receiving his provision, his protection. All the ways that he tries to show up, all the ways that he tries to show you his love.

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A lot of my clients, I see that, yes, they are. Actually, not appreciating. You know, the way that their partner is already doing so much. And this is where the love languages, you know, can be actually a bit sabotaging love because it can be like, ‘Ah, but he’s not loving me in the way that I, you know, want to be loved in my love language.’ No. I mean, there’s a responsibility to speak certain desires. I will get to that in a moment. Yes. And I spoke on that yesterday already. Yeah. The voice and speaking that, speaking that in a way that draws them in like an irresistible invitation for your partner to say yes. For the person you’re dating, same, same, yes?

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And there’s a difference between that and not receiving and being mental about, oh, but he’s not doing it according to the books of the love language guide, whatever. Or whatever other knowledge that you have about relationships. This is a trap of knowing a lot. Oh, I will go deeper into that, especially for you if you’re dating, but it can also show up in your relationship. Yeah, so a man wants to feel that our emotional maturity, that we do not collapse, that we do not project, that we do not vomit our emotions on him, that we are not reactive. From the moment that you’re reactive, you know, and you take responsibility. You take a step back. You take care of your own. inner girl of your own reactivity.

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Only afterwards you go to him from your heart, from your vulnerability, not from your mental criticism. There’s a difference in. in transmission, in embodiment. Yeah, where you come from— the mind, from the criticism— versus showing the ouch, the pain that you feel from your heart. And we need to feel that we need the other. We need men. We need a man. Feel that I need your support. and need you deeply yes the overly dependent woman yeah that’s not helping us and it’s not true because we crave that love we crave that create that that union with someone else And it’s important to show that to him, to show. Him how much you need Him every day in the smallest of ways.

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And when he shows him that he is there, In the way that he shows it to you, show how much you appreciate it through your body, through your omega being. oh my god that feels so good i can feel how that makes me feel relaxed when you do this or this for me yes Yeah, so all of your decisions and the way that you are being impact your man, you know, in all, in so many different ways. And so. I said this yesterday at the beginning of day one, yes? When we shift and we step into this embodied woman. Is embodied feminine leadership. Yes, everything that I teach, everything that my work is about. You raise your standard. And you hold a standard, and your man naturally rises to meet it.

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And you call him in. And that’s why we are leaders, emotional, spiritual leaders of love. Yes? And the love is not—oh, you should join me. That’s not love. Right? Or you’re not doing enough. Or you’re not— you know, doing the work. Or so— that’s not love. That’s not it. It’s the embodiment of that woman, of that frequency that will call him into meeting you there. And if he cannot meet you there, then that’s also okay. The relationship might. Cromwell might. Graduate and you know you can be at peace with that too. Not all relationships are meant to last. That’s okay too. And you know that there will always be more love. Love is always waiting for us. Um, yeah. And so this is a thing of like.

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Yeah, understanding the impact that we have and how we are impacting our other reality every moment. And, you know, we have a choice. We have a choice of being these embodied women. And when we are that, then we also project that on our men. So, we want to see our men as spiritual, powerful, wise men. So we want to really clear that resentment of, oh, men are like this or men are whatever. Weak or not, embodied or not, you know, really be honest with yourself, whatever deeper resentments you have towards men. Oh, men are not trustworthy. If you think that, then this is what you will see over and over again in your life. Yes, the men that are in your life are a reflection of your hidden resentment towards men.

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When you shift your outlook on men and you do that inner work, the men in your life will shift as well. Or they will move out of your life and that’s okay too. Depending on the type of relationship, of course, can be heartbreaking too. So we choose to see men as amazing creatures, powerful, wise, spiritual. All the men that we see, all the men that we see in our day-to-day life, they are practice cases. They are sent by our soulmates to practice being a woman of love. Yes. So it’s not just about loving one man. Well, it is about loving one man. There’s a beautiful thing of like. Through loving your man, if you’re in a relationship or dating a man, you’re actually loving all men. And I love that.

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That feeling of like loving the masculine. And by loving all men that are around you, you get to your one man. Yes, you get to your soulmate, if you will. So That’s a practice that we want to connect with every day as embodied women. And so that means that you’re no longer defined by the men who have hurt you. You’re not projecting your pain, your past relationships, on future men. So write down ‘men are’ and see what comes up, all the words that come up. When I’ve done that practice, there’s all kinds of shitty things that came up, yes? Not trustworthy, weak, soft. You know, blah, blah, blah. There’s a lot of things that I had to clear and I’ve been doing that work. So ask yourself, look at that. Yes.

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and then see if you can shift that ‘men are kind, wise, helpful, strong, deep, loyal, generous, powerful Wow, if you feel that and believe that about men. And embody that, yes? It’s not only a mental thing. We start with the mind sometimes, but then we let it land in our hearts. See how that shifts your relationship with your partner, yes? If you’re in a relationship, see how that shifts the way that you’re dating. Yeah, sure. Yeah, beautiful. And so. Singer ladies, I want to speak to you for a moment. Some of you are in a heartbreak. I know that because I’ve seen you in the group and speaking about that. If you’re in a heartbreak and recovering from a relationship, that’s a particular type of beast, let’s say. It’s a beautiful chapter.

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I’ve been like single now for three years. So I’ve been through, yeah, of course, we all know breakups. My last relationship ended because, yeah, I mean, for many different reasons. Not going to maybe go too deep into that right now. There was still a lot of love, but there was not. No alignment. And yeah, I’ve been through a deep, deep break, heartbreak with him. So the last three years I’ve been in this. Beautiful stage of really choosing myself and creating this inner wholeness. I wrote a post about it a couple of times. Of days ago or last week or so, like, what do I do as a single woman? It’s for me like such a beautiful opportunity. If you’re single, it’s amazing. It’s an amazing phase to be in.

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Because you get to become your own best lover. Because you get to create this inner wholeness, because you get to up-level yourself so that the next person that you invite and magnetize is a different caliber, because you have shifted caliber. If you want to be and have an amazing man, you need to become that amazing woman. And that means being very honest and radically honest about all the shit that you still carry. Yes. Not the easiest always. And so what we have to do as single women, the only thing we have to do is live our best lives. Truly. Become so fulfilled, so happy on their own, while still longing for love, while still feeling like, oh, I’m ready for love and I believe.

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That my man will find me— I believe in soulmate love, even if there’s no proof. Like I’ve been in celibacy for a year, that actually recently ended because a man came into my life. I’m in—I’m in the phase in the new phase, actually since only a month really literally, where a beautiful man just came. I just attracted him. I magnetized him. I didn’t do anything. I was just being me. He came. This is what gets to happen. We are the egg. We are the feminine. We magnetize men towards us, yes? Very important to understand that. Don’t have to achieve or prove yourself. And so, living your best life. Holding the vision of an incredible love, even when there’s no proof. Also, in your relationship, you can do that.

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You know, you can magnetize your man towards you by being in your feminine, juicy energy. You do that for you first and foremost, without pressure on him to become some someone who he’s not or to have that like—oh, you need to change. Yeah, you need to accept your man where he is right now, and at the same time, you hold a vision for a more incredible love between you guys. And you embody that. That becomes an invitation for your man to join you if you’re in a relationship. He doesn’t even need words. Sometimes you might want to use them, but there’s so much that is possible through just embodiment of your own juiciness and shifting your relationship from your own space. If you’re a single woman, this is a very, very, very important message, yes?

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I want you to know that you should not offer your body. Should, there’s no— that’s a bit radical maybe, yes. But I see women who are repeating a pattern of attracting men that are not fully choosing them. They are doing this. They’re offering their own bodies, their sex, their pussies. Way too soon. It’s not enough to have attraction, you know? And it depends on what you want. If you want a man that chooses you, well, that is what you select for. And of course, that takes a little bit of time, but you can tell when a man— there’s signs. Amen. will tell you whether he’s available for the relationship, where he’s just dating, you know, etc. And so there’s a mistake that you might be making of offering yourself all the girlfriend’s perks, you know, advantages without a commitment.

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And this is a thing with sex. If you offered yourself too soon, and oftentimes that comes because you want to attach a man to you through your body, through your pussy, through your. Sexuality through your beauty. This is a shadow. This is a clear, clear shadow. And it’s very important to clear that because there’s a lot of shadow there. There’s a lot of inner child needing validation through sex from men. And this is how you get a man to commit to you. It’s not true. Yes, it’s not true. So wait, let’s. The connection slowly built up. Tell a man I go slow. Tell a man what you want. I want commitment. I’m ready, you know, for the father of my child. Say these things clearly and a mature man and your man, he will stay.

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It’s as simple as that. Truly. It doesn’t mean that you need to know from the beginning because you cannot know. Like I’m dating this man and we don’t know— and we speak about that. But it’s beautiful and it feels amazing. So maybe within three months, you know— we realize. This is it. Or maybe we realize, ah. You know, for different reasons. I don’t know. This was an amazing romance and and wow, you like this yeah, just upleveled my experience. But there’s this feeling of all slowness. Just being open to meet a man that makes you feel calm and loved. So depending on your attachment style, if you’re a person— again, who you have certain patterns in your dating. In your relationship, this all goes back to your childhood.

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It all goes back to the attachment with your mother and father, or maybe other attachment figures. Yes. This is what you produce. Yes. What you attract in your life is the reflection of that. Yeah, so some of you might really be focused on attraction only, and that’s a mistake. By falling in love, that’s a mistake. The falling in love goes away. It doesn’t matter. You need way more than that. And we need to do the inner nervous system work. It’s a nervous system upgrade as you’re single. To actually be attracted to presence, groundedness, emotional attunement, yeah? And versus attraction and like, oh my God, he’s so amazing. and falling for the fantasy. A lot of women. Men can do that too, by the way. Far for a fantasy, for a projection.

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You project something on the other person without actually knowing them well enough, yes? Notice all of these patterns. And yeah, that’s very important to understand, to wait, to not offer yourself. And to open your mind. Yeah, to open your mind. Understanding that every man that you meet is sent by your soulmate. And so every man is practice, practice, practice. And you know, one of these men might turn out to be your soulmate. But so this is how you want to approach the men that are coming into your life. They’re showing you things. What are they showing you? And sometimes that’s saying, ‘no, thank you.’ Like I said, ‘no, thank you’ for the last year to a lot of men. I’ve had situations, many situations where the pain that I have with my father came up over and over again.

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Yes. Oh, hard stuff. I mean, hard. It’s not hard; it’s just that I see it and I I accept the challenge you know of life and I accept like I’ve accepted like, ‘okay, this is here to show me something— boundaries, my needs, speaking.’ Yeah, all of that. How do I express? I’ve learned so much in being single in the last years. Amazing. Yeah. And so another thing that I do. And you might do as a woman in a relationship or being single. I mentioned it before. I overintellectualize. So we’re very smart women. Yes, we are smart. and I’d like for myself, of course, I’m a coach. This is my job. That knowledge. And a lot of my clients also know a lot about relationships, self-growth, spirituality, they read a lot, they listen to the podcast.

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It’s a lot of mind stuff. Yes. This is a lot of the achievers, women, we do that. And so that knowledge can be a wall. Yeah, it can be a while in your current relationship. If you’ve been together for a long time, it can be a while when you’re dating. Because you relate to— With a person from your mind, from a checklist, from all the polarity teachings— I’m going to apply this. Or does it meet? You know. Compare them to a checklist. You compare them to content, to Instagram content. And so. You know, you’re judging him. You’re explaining a lot. You’re talking a lot. These are all signs that you might be. in that kind of Corner, yes. And again, I have compassion for you because I recognize myself.

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Rather than you know, feeling, experiencing the connection and letting yourself be felt by him. That’s a feminine, yes. So we want to show our hearts. We want to not hide behind the wall of coaching or self-growth development knowledge. We don’t want to compare him to a checklist. We want to take emotional risks. We want to be vulnerable. We want to Let him feel us, yes? It’s what I’m doing with this man. It’s so beautiful. I’m so raw and open and I cry and I’m And I know that on an intellectual level, I know more than him about these things. But I choose to be my omega. I choose to not go there. Because that is how I sabotage and how I go into criticism and how I go into, oh, it’s not good enough for me.

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This is literally my. One of my patterns that is playing out in how I’m dating this man right now, yes. Let’s take a breath with that. Come in the community with all of this, yes? Siri? Other things that you might be doing. You might be chasing a man’s love. If you’re chasing a man’s love, it is a clear sign that your inner little girl doesn’t feel connected with you. She’s asking for your love, not his. Okay, very important. This is whether you’re dating or single, by the way. All of these things, yes? And because you are not connected to that aspect of yourself yet, you compensate by trying to fixate on a man so that he fills that void within. Yeah, you’re projecting that. And so that energy of chasing.

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That is connected to a survival mechanism and something inside of you that is crying out for your own. This is why we need to become our own best mothers and fathers, also, as I said yesterday, for your own love and also the divine love, like this universal godly love. I might not resonate with you, that’s okay. Just take what lands, what resonates. And so this father wound, it’s a father wound they are expressing in a lot of women. You know, makes us believe that we need to prove ourselves. You need to prove yourself that you’re achieving, you’re chasing to get a place in this world. And therefore you’re out in the world, you’re fighting, yeah? You’re trying to prove to a man that you have value. You’re trying to keep the attention, the connection alive.

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And there’s different ways that you do that. And so, yeah, that’s the path, yes, of sinking into this inner worthiness. And your value, yeah. and feeling that that’s innate, it’s just there. And that’s the emotional work. Yeah, receiving deeper nourishment within yourself, offering that within yourself. Yeah, so that’s big, big work that I do. Yeah, I do with my clients. And in beyond, we will do that. Yes, I’ve mentioned yesterday that after this effortless masterclass. Yeah, my most amazing high level immersion is starting. So we’re going to do, of course, everything that I mentioned in Effortless is going to be applied in beyond. So the concrete tools. Another one, if you lose yourself, if you settle, if you give into the desires of a man by bypassing your own needs.

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Again, this might be offering or offering not. This might be coming up in your relationship. Yes. Then it is time to take men or other people off the pedestal that you’ve placed them on. And this is related again to your father. to your father’s love that seemed unattainable. You’ll feel, you know. You’ll feel and you have the feeling that a man’s love is something that you’ll never reach or you never deserve. Yeah. And this is when you’re fixated on getting, on achieving, on being liked. Rather than asking yourself, ‘What do you really want in the first place?’ Yeah. What? What do you want? And so these are things and reasons why dating, relating with men might feel exhausting. Yeah, you can lose yourself by chasing the other person’s attention, by performing, by offering yourself to soon.

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Yeah. By getting lost in fantasy or what could be, rather than what is actually being shown. You know, when we have high expectations and when we go into fantasizing. Instead of looking at the facts and the reality. It’s very important to stay grounded when you’re dating and to take it slow and to look at reality and remember, oh, I only know this person for five weeks. Okay, this is important. Yeah, and this is how you might be dating from a wound, yeah? Instead of from sovereignty, instead of steadiness. This is why you might feel exhausted. You know, it feels confusing, feels like something is draining. And so I just want to tell you, like when a man wants you, you know, a good and mature relationship, it’s clear a man wants you, you know.

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He will show it to you. There’s no second guessing. There’s clear communication. He shows up. Yeah. You know when that’s when a man is into you know, it there’s no confusion. So some practices, because I want to get to more stuff. Yeah, there’s a lot more I can say about this, but I’ll leave it at this. Dating from self-pleasure, having yourself pleasure. Practices before you go out into the world and date. Or even just be open to the world. Dating from self-love again. This connection to yourself and your inner child doing that inner child work. Your inner marriage, your inner wholeness between the part of you that sees that alpha and the part of you that feels that omega. Yeah.

00:39:44

Making a list of the previous qualities that you saw in your last partnership and your last partner, and add to them. Add you know to the top of the list, this is my soulmate, and add qualities that you are were missing in him, and maybe that’s just he chose me, and he fully claimed me, and he was super available. Or he made me feel so relaxed and grounded. Yeah, emotional attunement. Another one. Ask the universe. Ask the universe to bring you a man. Like, tell the universe, I’m ready. Show me a man that will flirt with me today. In the coolest way, you know, show me. And then synchronicities will come. We get to just ask for things. This is effortless living. We ask the universe to help us, to show us things.

00:40:27

It will be sent, yes? Again, we have a reality to the extent that we give ourselves permission to have it and to receive. Yeah. Being willing to love over and over and over again. Loving all men. Loving all the men that you meet on a daily. Yes, practice with all the men that you meet. And also noticing, you know, from your last relationships, you know. Of course, you’re in a survival mechanism, avoiding the pain from repeating. That’s the subconscious programming. And, you know, ask yourself, okay, what am I telling myself about the relationship? How hard it is, how I will never find a man. And so these are beliefs that create a filter that make you miss the guy. And your soulmate might be a completely different type, especially if you’ve been repeating like unhealthy patterns.

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You know, let go of the type and the list and let yourself be be really connecting to how you want to feel in your nervous system, which is grounded, calm, chosen. And it might feel a bit boring. Yes, it’s not that exciting as the intoxicating super attraction love. That’s what is called trauma bonding, yeah? So we want to shift that. You want to shift your nervous system. Yoo-hoo! Ah, let’s take another breath with that. mm-hmm, I’m going to now shift into talking about relationships. And what you can do when you are in a long-term relationship. Things I’ve mentioned already, a little deeper and a little bit more, yes? Then we’ll go into practice. You want to really start receiving your man all the way that your partner loves you.

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Show it through your body. Show it with, oh, that feels good. Show it with an asymmetrical body. Show it through your body movements. The things that we started to practice a little bit yesterday, yes? Show him, not from the mind, not telling him, show it from your body. Of course, you can use your words, but the words you speak, they are a translation of the state that you have. From your body. Speak to him from your yoni. Try that, you know, feel the difference. Beautiful practice. You can practice this literally if you’re in a relationship. Speak everything from your yoni the next 24 hours. Come in our community, in our WhatsApp group. Tell me how that goes, yeah? And so. We’re acting from love, yes, in our relationship.

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So that means that, you know, sometimes we dress in a way that he loves for him, even when you’re tired. So I love to, for example, I did that last week. I was cooking and I was wearing like something very sexy and I did it in a casual way. You know, this is such an amazing way to evoke his alpha, to evoke his desire and attraction. Because you are like him. You know, I’m just walking around and I don’t know vacuum cleaning in my in something sexy. Try it. Just do it. Yeah. Another one, big one. Okay, I’m going to take a sip.

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This is a big one. Speaking without blame. So no longer blaming your partner, no longer finger pointing. This is very important. Because this is what women do all the time, myself included. It kills eros. It kills attraction. Really, really, really. It’s so tiresome. It makes us feel depleted. It feels the man becomes the little boy. You become the mother. I mean, it’s really— we are done with that. Yes, we don’t want to do that anymore. And so this is deep inner work. Yeah, it’s emotional ninja work. I tell this to my couples, to my clients. So you want to, of course, show how he impacts you, but not from your mind, not from blaming him. You want to show him. your heart— you want to show him the ouch that his behavior created inside of you.

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Yes, so not a a correlation between ‘I feel this’ and ‘this is your fault.’ You—you—you—you— your statements immediately art. received as an attack. Yes. You bring your feeler. I’m feeling, ah, hurt. I felt so sad when you, you know, left without saying anything. And it felt like I was not important to you. You know? That’s it. And I can feel that being in my heart. And when you are in that vulnerability, yes, he will meet you there. She will meet you there. So, you know that you’re safe. from a space and you speak from a space of Vulnerability. When there’s a deep exhale, you know, when you know it inside of yourself, you know, when you speak from your rawness and vulnerability, not from your critical mind.

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Your complainer and your blamer. Yeah, and that takes work. It’s work. It’s like emotional maturity— work to go there instead of going to your protection mechanism. Yes, your attack. And so that leads to his seer coming online. This is how your yoni can trust again, how your pussy will open, how your sexuality, your sexual energy and eros will flow between you guys again, yeah? So yeah, it’s our responsibility to bring that filler and to go first. You know, what can you say to him? That will actually bring his awareness online. Um, yeah, and you you can allow him. You want him to feel the hurt that is created, not as a weather report, not from the mind, you know. You say it from this deep connection.

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And sometimes your partner will be dancing, and it’s time to get there with you. And we need to throw him a bone, yes? So. Yeah, that’s also okay. Men have the right to fail and to not be perfect. This is a practice. And sometimes we also need to see first. So we go first. Yeah, you say, ‘Ah, I see you are hurt because.’ You always showed your love, and I got cold, for example, or I refused, you know, that touch. And so, you know, you take responsibility for one thing that you might be doing that is contributing to his pain. In that case, you go to your seer first. You admit something. I see that you are hurt because of that. Yeah. And so that also shifts the polarity.

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And so, when we go first into loving and being humble and being vulnerable in this way, you know, our partners, they will meet us in that depth. Because it shows courage to go first and to be that, yes? Yeah, this is how we up-level our relationships, yes. And so, the bread is everything. You know, the bread, as I discussed yesterday. It’s how much of our body is included, it’s how much we can go in our omega into our filler, and so. Again, I said it yesterday, the more we feel our emotions, the more we feel our orgasm, yes? When you breathe all the way into your pussy. You do that also when you are in pain, when you’re suffering, when you’re angry. You do that when you’re in pleasure and you do that when you’re in pain.

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And this is the way that your breath can actually create the connection. Because the energy goes from ‘Yes’— from your body. And it’s like your body is talking and expressing the emotion or the anger or the frustration or the sadness. Yeah, and so, when you open your body and you speak from that, this will also ‘Yes’— open him. This is how you the bread actually is— this invitation to connection. If you go and you are not in your body, the energy stays in the head and it’s your mind to minds that are connecting. And you want to of course bring your hearts online. You want to bring your sex online. And this is by breathing deeply. Oh wow, I felt so so frustrated today, you know, because Oh, because I wanted you close and you were not there and et cetera.

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And I was worried. And I mean, stuff like that. And you go deeper into your bread. Yeah. And you saw that. Yeah. Okay, so I could have had another important topic. We don’t need to rescue our men. We don’t need to rescue our partners. We cannot fix the emotions that someone else is feeling. Um, yeah. And of course, if we’re connected deeply to someone, then we will feel their energies. We will feel their emotions. We will feel their stress, all of that. Yeah. And we don’t need to fix that. We don’t need to mother him. That’s a very, very important thing to understand. Allow your person, your partner, man, woman to be in that place. Yes. And just. breathe with the heavy energy that you might feel inside of your own system—yes, that his state might evoke inside of you.

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That’s why we mother and we fix because we feel uncomfortable with our own sensations and emotions that arise as a result of them being in a certain state. So our responsibility is to regulate ourselves, yes? It’s not about us in that moment. We don’t need to fix and solve it. We don’t need to get involved. We don’t need to start working on it because that’s sticky. What feels good and what is empowering actually is—not judging it, just noticing it. So we want equanimity and we want to project a feeling of ‘you’ve got this.’ Yeah. You’ve got this. So giving him space to feel his feelings and just letting him know that you are there and you love him. Yeah, and seeing him as this capable person or her— this capable person that has got the capacity to hold himself.

00:50:04

Yeah. And your body knows in those moments—yes, your body knows whether you are leaking energy in an interaction. Or is this? You know, regenerative. You know, is this serving the love, the connection, the field between us or not? And these are things, again, I said this to you yesterday, that your body will show you. And this embodiment will show you. And that can be like, in that moment, the biggest thing and the best thing you can do for love is saying, ‘Honey, I love you so much. I’m going to step away. I trust you will work this out.’ You know, I’ll be in the other room. Let me know when you’re ready to connect with me. And so. That’s very. very powerful. You don’t need to go down into the emotion with him also.

00:50:51

You get to be happy if you feel happy, even when your partner is struggling. Yes? The most important thing is, yeah, it’s not a mental. It’s not your brain that’s going to guide you in this. It’s your body. You know, what is serving him? What is serving the field? And that answer might shift. Like today, it might be this answer. Tomorrow, it might be different. A different answer. Yeah. And this is important to understand, like in relationships, like nobody can save us, but ourselves, we are responsible for our own emotions. Yes. So let’s move to sex a little bit. So how to inspire him to navigate, you know, your body is being super responsive in sexuality. If you want to shift your sexual connection. You know, our responsiveness is everything.

00:51:45

Bread by bread, you’re responding to him. And you don’t have to pretend like we move in sexuality. On the rhythm at the speed of our bodies, so we’re not longer pleasing— we’re not saying yes when actually our body is saying no. That’s we’re done with that, but we’re responsive and we’re looking for our yes in every moment. And when there’s even a yes— a little bit of a yes to the touch that he’s giving, we’re showing that, even if it’s a 2 out of 10. The way that he touches our necks, for example, showing, hmm. You know? And this is the way that you communicate in an omega way, in a feminine way. That will stimulate him. A man wants to feel that he’s winning with you.

00:52:24

Let our man, let your man win in a relationship with you. Let your man win in sex and help him. We have to communicate in a way that allows our partner to become the best lover for us. And that means that we are responsive. We give him months. We don’t expect them to read our minds. Yeah. We don’t pretend to like it. You know, we’re not angry when he doesn’t pick up on our clues. We make them even more obvious, yes? Voice more, sound more, move more, say yes. Yeah, say yes when something feels good. So. Give yourself to the pleasure that he’s creating in your body. You can also just take his hands and move it somewhere. You can play, yeah? The sky is the limit. You can really explore.

00:53:09

You know, Love and arrows in such a delicious and new way, even if you’ve been together for 30 years. And so this is your responsibility to mourn, to be responsive, to speak, to help him. To show your body in a playful way how he can put his hands, you know, he can show your bum and just look. You know, these are ways that we can be playful in Omega. Your feedback, our feedback. Um, guidelines are his fuel for his mastery. This is how he becomes an amazing lover. Yes. And sometimes they might fail and that’s okay. And so. You serve the field of errors between you. Yeah, you’re serving. That field you’re not judging yourself, you’re not judging the others, you’re truthful about what is here and how you’re navigating this.

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And, you know, sex is nothing. There’s nothing to get to in sex. There’s no even the penetration— all of that, the linear act of lovemaking, you know. It’s not true. Like, sex is great when we honor the moment, after moment. And when we really get good at saying yes, you know, when we get good at saying yes, this is how we, wow, how sexuality becomes incredible. And a lot of men have had a lot of rejection. Also understand that, yes? A lot of rejection in sexuality, in life in general. So, Yeah, it can be. That’s why it’s hard, you know, for a man. Yeah, to receive rejection from you as well and to receive your no. So we want to get good at exploring our not-yes and we not-yet study.

00:54:48

If we are a no for what he’s wanting, we can really play with that. You know, we can play with a not yet. and invite him into something that we are available for without shutting down the fact that we might get to the fact. Do what he wants. Your mind is open, but you’re honoring what is available and true and feels good in this moment. And again, that’s your responsibility. What are you a yes for? In this moment, if you’re a ‘no’ for what he wants, then what are you a ‘yes’ for? What kind of touch? Where? Can he just put his hands on your hips and just apply pressure on on you and you know, the lips of your yoni open a little bit for example? Can you then also show that appreciation?

00:55:29

Yeah, that’s, wow, that’s feedback. That’s simple ways that you connect. On a body level, and you can go for your yes even when there’s a lot of nose and there has been a lot of nose. Yeah. And a man is interested in experiencing pleasure through you. A man is more interested in your pleasure and your experience of life than his own. So when he starts to see your responsiveness, that will turn him on. That will really shift. You know, his experience. So don’t make that mistake. I think a lot of women think like it’s about his pleasure. That can be some, in some cases, there might be, you know, some shadow showing up for him. But we can really shift that reality. Yeah. So these are ways that we can really bring more areas in our relationship.

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These are ways that we inspire, we inspire men. Yeah, we inspire men to meet us. We inspire men to choose us. We inspire men to come, yeah, to come to us, basically. And so. Yeah. Let your man win. Let your person win, you know. Give him appreciation, admire him. Men want to be and long to be admired by their women. You know, men want to be championed, and we want to be cherished. A man wants to be championed, wants to be appreciated. Yes. So that’s something very, very, very beautiful. And just let yourself sink into your own embodiment. And that is the most, yeah, the most juicy, the most delicious thing to do, basically. Okay. Thank you. And seeing if I want to guide us now into a little practice. Hmm.

00:57:17

Ah, yes. And before we go, maybe a last point. About the inner critic. Understand that, because a lot of all women that I work with have this one— most women, actually, myself included. Your inner kinesikist. is you know, a protection mechanism, as I said in the beginning. It’s trying to protect you from what has happened before in your body. So understand that. That’s why it’s coming up. And so you need to feel and we need to feel into what it is protecting, what is under the rock that’s our own. embodiment our own healing work. Yes and we again, we want to evolve our inner seer and that inner critic to a loving, loving, loving inner seer and loving seer of our man as well, so that’s how we, how we become leaders in love.

00:58:13

Yes. And so. Yeah. This is it. Yes. Hmm. This is today’s transmission. There’s a lot more. I’m feeling like there’s so much more actually, but I’m going to leave it at this. And I want to guide us into a beautiful practice. Again, come in our community to share anything that this transmission has been. You know, giving you and what has been coming up for you in this transmission. I know it’s a lot. Take notes, listen again. And let’s now close the eyes. Let’s go for a beautiful, beautiful practice.

00:59:05

And as your eyes are closed, settle into the weight of your body and your seat. Thank you. Letting yourself drop into your back line.

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Letting your tailbone become an anchor point of your own grounding. Let us sing in your back line. Practice that feel. What that does to your body. Thank you. You’re way above. And ground into your tailbone. Just bring your awareness, your mind into this hotline. Into the grounding part of your tailbone.

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Become as present with yourself as you would want your best lover.

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Thinking into your team. Now bring your attention to the front surface of your body.

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Soften your face, your jaw. Your neck, your shoulders. Your chest, your solar plexus. Your upper and lower belly,

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Evolve our lips. We’re getting there.

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Thank you. All the way down to your legs. beat. Toad.

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And on your next inhale, let your belly spill forward with your hips rocking and bringing the belly button to the front. And on your exhale, sink back into the back line. and send your exhale up your spine. Thank you. Inhale. rocking the bellies to the front. Exhale tucking the belly back. Exhale up the spine. Inhaling deep. into your lower belly. move it to the front. Exhaling out the spine and send the energy up. I’m doing this. Rockin’ units. And then that. you Exhaling off your spine. dancing with it. Amen. Thank you. Thank you. get this pelvic rock going. Thank you.

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Not bring all of your attention into your heart. Imagine if your heart was a piece of You’re unclenching the fist. And we have physical height. Energetic emotional heart anahata chakra and we have a spiritual heart. Yes. All in our chest. And today I ask you to. Let your physical heart. I’m clenching the fists. Thank you. Letting a breath into your heart now. Continue the rocking. And let your breath open your heart from the inside out. Let’s on the exhale relax all the muscles around the heart that your heart becomes soft and available. Bye.

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We know we are living in heavy times. We know we should not guard our hearts in defense. Thank you. In the darkness that our heart is most needed. And just a single one of you and us connected to our hearts that ripples through every space that you enter. Thank you. So checking in on the scale from 1 to 10, 1 is so close, sick of it all, and 10 is unavailable. Open. You radiating love. You feel how available is your heart to love right now.

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And what would it take to take it one digit up? What would feel safe for you to open up one number? And to open to yourself, to the Divine, to capital L Love. Thank you. Not to anything abusive of course. Ask yourself what it takes to open from where you are now. One number up— all you need from yourself

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and offer yourself that adjustment. Give yourself whatever you need. And whatever that is. When we close our hearts to love, we show our intimacy. And then it disappears and we forgot that we actually are the ones that shut it out. We think it’s not available. For intimacy to be present in our lives, we must be available to love, become more available to love right now.

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Now. Speaking, whispering one promise related to your heart. Thank you. Speak it to your heart.

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Honoring yourself with a bow.

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And sit with the ripples of this practice of this entire transmission. Comment in the WhatsApp group, share. This was. Opening, what is opening? Any insights? Hmm. Like, oh, the replay. of day one— if you still need to do that, of course, check out beyond if you want some on the bottom of the page. On Friday, I will officially introduce This amazing next step. You might already feel it. I’m curious. Can already check it out. Sending you so, so, so much love. Thank you. Mmm, Bing. Here with me. In this revolution, yes. And these new ways of being, of showing up. Yeah and I’ll see you tomorrow. For day three, same time the transmission will drop. Yes, I think much more. Peace. Thank you.